E113: 5 Reasons Adult Children Struggle With Boundaries

In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest struggles for adult children from dysfunctional families: setting and sticking to healthy boundaries. If you’ve ever found it challenging to maintain boundaries, you’re not alone. We explore five main reasons behind this difficulty, starting with the fear of rejection or abandonment. Often, those raised in dysfunctional environments feel they must prioritize others to avoid isolation, and that belief lingers into adulthood.

We also discuss how a lack of clarity around personal needs and feelings makes it hard to recognize what boundaries to set, while guilt and a sense of obligation can pressure us into “keeping the peace” at the expense of our well-being. Low self-esteem plays a role as well, with many of us questioning whether our boundaries are valid or feeling unworthy of asserting our needs. Finally, we explore the patterns of people-pleasing and codependency that develop as coping mechanisms, where we feel responsible for others’ happiness, often at the cost of our own.

By recognizing these patterns, we can start to redefine our boundaries and make meaningful strides toward healthier relationships. Join us as we uncover the roots of these struggles and share insights on how to break free.

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Tammy Vincent, a survivor and thriver, has transformed her life from the challenges of being an adult child of two alcoholic parents. With a Masters in Education and addiction and recovery certifications, shes a beacon of hope for others on their paths to transformation. 

As a devoted mother of three grown children and a loving wife, Tammy's personal journey of healing and empowerment has led her to become a certified life coach and NLP practitioner. Her dedication to growth has been illuminated through her best-selling books, two powerful volumes that offer insights, guidance and inspiration to those seeking their own paths to healing.

Tammy’s mission is clear; to guide others out of the darkness and into becoming the best versions of themselves. Her journey, from survivor to certified life coach, NLP practitioner, speaker and author, exemplifies the incredible strength of the human spirit and the possibility of rewriting our stories from a place of empowerment and healing.