E 107: 6 Reasons Why it is NEVER a Childs Fault

In this episode, Tammy Vincent, trauma-informed coach and advocate for survivors of dysfunctional families, dives deep into the critical reasons why a child—especially before the age of 8—can never be at fault for anything that happens to them. Tammy walks us through the developmental science behind this, highlighting how young children lack the cognitive, emotional, and moral capacity to be responsible for complex situations or harmful experiences they may encounter.

She discusses the importance of understanding a child’s limited ability to reason, their dependence on adults for safety and guidance, and the way egocentric thinking can make them internalize blame for things beyond their control. Tammy also explores how their vulnerability and lack of autonomy make them susceptible to manipulation and harm—further emphasizing that responsibility lies with the adults in their lives.

Most importantly, Tammy stands firm on this point: it is never the child’s fault. She explains that whether it's growing up in a dysfunctional family, experiencing trauma, or facing difficult circumstances, children do not have the power or awareness to be responsible for what happens to them.

Listeners can expect to gain valuable insights into the impact of childhood development on feelings of guilt and blame, and learn why it’s so important to shift the narrative around responsibility when it comes to children. This is an empowering episode for anyone who grew up in challenging environments and may still carry misplaced guilt.

Tune in to hear Tammy’s compassionate and trauma-informed perspective on why no child is ever at fault for the things that happen to them.

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About Tammy:

Tammy Vincent, a survivor and thriver, has transformed her life from the challenges of being an adult child of two alcoholic parents. With a Masters in Education and addiction and recovery certifications, shes a beacon of hope for others on their paths to transformation. 

As a devoted mother of three grown children and a loving wife, Tammy's personal journey of healing and empowerment has led her to become a certified life coach and NLP practitioner. Her dedication to growth has been illuminated through her best-selling books, two powerful volumes that offer insights, guidance and inspiration to those seeking their own paths to healing.

Tammy’s mission is clear; to guide others out of the darkness and into becoming the best versions of themselves. Her journey, from survivor to certified life coach, NLP practitioner, speaker and author, exemplifies the incredible strength of the human spirit and the possibility of rewriting our stories from a place of empowerment and healing.

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